Saturday, December 20, 2014

Tina Fey's prayer for her daughter... (mine for Parker, too)

One of the benefits of being a housebound, breastfeeding new mom is that you're parked on the couch a lot. Ideally, this would mean marathon sessions of Sex and the City or reading all those classics you always swore you would if only you had the time. But the breastfeeding/newborn care thing means that, while I have the time, I don't have the attention span or ability to dig into complex plots or Russian names. So light reading has been in order.

One of the books I read is Tina Fey's Bossypants, which made me laugh out loud, especially toward the end, when she was delving into motherhood. I especially loved her chapter about breastfeeding and all the "Teat Nazis" who make you feel less than if you're not gleefully breastfeeding until your child is two-years-old. But this little prayer for her daughter is pretty awesome, too:


First, Lord: No tattoos. May neither Chinese symbol for truth nor Winnie-the-Pooh holding the FSU logo stain her tender haunches.

May she be beautiful but not damaged, for it’s the damage that draws the creepy soccer coach’s eye, not the beauty.

When the Crystal Meth is offered, may she remember the parents who cut her grapes in half and stick with beer.
 
Guide her, protect her when crossing the street, stepping onto boats, swimming in the ocean, swimming in pools, walking near pools, standing on the nearby subway platform, crossing 86th Street, stepping off of boats, using mall restrooms, getting on and off escalators, driving on country roads while arguing, leaning on large windows, walking in parking lots, riding Ferris wheels, roller-coasters, log flumes, or anything called “Hell Drop,” “Tower of Torture,” or “The Death Spiral Rock N’ Zero G Roll featuring Aerosmith,” and standing on any kind of balcony ever, anywhere, at any age.
 
Lead her away from acting but not all the way to finance. Something where she can make her own hours but still feel intellectually fulfilled and get outside sometimes and not have to wear high heels. What would that be, Lord? Architecture? Midwifery? Golf course design? I’m asking You because if I knew, I’d be doing it, dammit.
 
May she play the drums to the fiery rhythm of her own heart with the sinewy strength of her own arms, so she need  not lie with drummers.

Grant her a rough patch from twelve to seventeen. 

Let her draw horses and be interested in Barbies for much too long, for childhood is short — a tiger flower blooming magenta for one day – and adulthood is long and dry-humping in cars will wait.
 
O Lord, break the Internet forever, that she may be spared the misspelled invective of her peers and the online marketing campaign for Rape Hostel V: Girls Just Wanna Get Stabbed.
 
And when she one day turns on me and calls me a bitch in front of Hollister, give me the strength, Lord, to yank her directly into a cab in front of her friends, for I will not have that shit. I will not have it.
 
And should she choose to be a mother one day, be my eyes, Lord, that I may see her, lying on a blanket on the floor at 4:50 a.m., all-at-once exhausted, bored, and in love with the little creature whose poop is leaking up its back.“My mother did this for me once,” she will realize as she cleans feces off her baby’s neck.“My mother did this for me.” And the delayed gratitude will wash over her as it does each generation and she will make a mental note to call me. And she will forget. But I’ll know, because I peeped it with Your God eyes.

Amen.


9 comments:

  1. This prayer is going into my file labelled "words" to be retrieved if / when my daughter becomes a mother. Brilliant. Thank-you

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  2. With a 15 year old who just gave herself a cartilage piercing, that "no tattoos" bit is suddenly very real. Parker's a real cutie. Remember this when she's 15!

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  5. من منا لم يبحث عن ارخص شركة مكافحة حشرات بجدة كما أننا نهتم كثيراً بشفط وتنظيف البيارات ولدينا شركة تسليك مجارى بجدة أما بالنسبة لتنظيف خزانات الماء نحن لدينا شركة عزل خزانات بجدة وبالنسبة لتنظيف المنازل السكنية نحن لدينا شركة تنظيف شقق بجدة وبخصوص البلاط والرخام شركة غسيل بلاط بجدة ولدينا فى الطائف أيضاً شركة غسيل بلاط بالطائف وبمدينة مكة المكرمة شركة غسيل بلاط بمكة أما بخصوص نقل الأثاث المنزلة فنحن نمتلك نقل عفش بجدة

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  6. its very great شركة رش مبيدات بجدة الشركة الأفضل فى السعودية والتى تعتبر افضل شركة رش مبيدات بجدة نحن نضمن لكم الجودة والتوفير لاننا ارخص شركة رش مبيدات بجدة ونقوم بمساعدتك على القضاء التام على الحشرات فى شركة رش حشرات بجدة كما اننا نعمل فى مجال مكافحة الحشرات أيضا فى شركة مكافحة حشرات بجدة والتى تعتبر افضل شركة مكافحة حشرات بجدة بل وتعبر كذلك ارخص شركة مكافحة حشرات بجدة

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